What now?

When bad things happen, we instinctively want to know why. It’s as though we believe that the answer to that question will somehow make the experience go away or possibly bring back what was lost. It is often a manifestation of denial.

Why did I get sick? Why did I lose my job? Why did my marriage fail? Why me? The truth is that a thousand good answers to those questions will not erase your experience or recover anything that you lost. Additionally, the questions we ask ourselves will elicit and determine our emotional state, so that some of our questions are plunging us deeper into discouragement, depression and despair.

The best question to ask is: what now? This question focuses your attention on an appropriate response to the situation. It accepts that a bad thing happened and then looks for the good you can bring out of it. It puts you in control of what’s next and activates a subconscious search for options, solutions and opportunities. What is the situation forcing you to become or to do? What change does the situation demand of you? What will you do differently next time? What lessons can you learn from the experience?

These are transformational questions because the answers will set you in motion towards better outcomes.  Why – is a stagnant question because it induces an argument and not an action! Our quest for answers is valid and noble but never at the expense of progress! Think about it #why #answers #progress #whatnow